We pass through this world but once. Few tragedies can be more extensive than the stunting of life, few injustices deeper than the denial of an opportunity to strive or even to hope, by a limit imposed from without, but falsely identified as lying within. ― Stephen Jay Gould
Tragedy…it impacts every single one of us…in some way or some form.
The way we deal with life’s tragedies is unique to each of us. We are all different and no two persons think, act and experience life the same. What we all share in common is that tragedy is difficult for everyone and results in significant loss. Support one another as best as you possibly can. Reach out to someone in their time of need.
Remember tomorrow comes. Hope remains. Life will get better.
I firmly believe...
A tragedy does not make up my entire life. I can change my story. I can write my own.
Some practical tips that you can use to offer support to yourself or a loved one who is dealing with tragedy or loss. May the related quotes that accompany each tip remind you that you are not alone - tragedy impacts every single one of us...
1. Accept the loss – this takes time, however accepting that life goes on and that your loss is permanent enables you to recover from your loss and to move on. This is not easy, and it takes time.
That was the day my whole world went black. Air looked black. Sun looked black. I laid up in bed and stared at the black walls of my house….Took three months before I even looked out the window, see the world still there. I was surprised to see the world didn’t stop. ― Kathryn Stockett
2. Surround yourself with supportive people – having a support system goes a long way. It’s okay if you don’t feel like socializing, however, knowing you have others who care for you, love you and are there to support you in your time of need, really helps.
It’s odd, isn’t it? People die every day, and the world goes on like nothing happened. But when it’s a person you love, you think everyone should stop and take notice. That they ought to cry and light candles and tell you that you’re not alone. ― Kristina McMorris
3. Forgive yourself – Whatever the cause of the tragedy, you can’t go back and change time or the event. Allow yourself forgiveness and acceptance of the events and things that you could not control.
One day can change your life. One day can ruin your life. All life is is three or four big days that change everything. ― Beverly Donofrio
4. Seek outside help – There are others that have gone through similar losses/tragedies and you may benefit from their support. Grief support groups are available online and can help you as they share ways that have worked for them to get through the pain and suffering of loss.
A person’s tragedy does not make up their entire life. A story carves deep grooves into our brains each time we tell it. But we aren't one story. We can change our stories. We can write our own. ― Amy Poehler
5. Be present – this is one of the best ways to support a loved one. Be there, let them know you are there and that they have your support.
No popularity exists when tragedy strikes. All that's left are human hearts and love and ache. We all love each other, deep down, and when we see another soul in pain, we can't help but hurt too. ― Maya Van Wagenen
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